My struggles and journey with making goals.
Well, sometimes having no goals can be an interesting journey. I go where the wind blows and see where it takes me. Is it a shock? Most definitely.
I remembered listening to an old GTD Virtual Study Group podcasting with Leo Babauta as the guest. He shocked the audience when he said he had no goals…
After listening to the podcast, I thought to myself “WTF did I just listen to? Living life without goals? How is this possible when I was raised up thinking that I’m supposed to know what I’m gonna do when I grow up?”
I’ve always been a pretty laid back kinda guy. I was a young adult just graduated from college. Still single and wanting to remain free. My friend asked me “WTF do you wanna do in life, Wil?”
“How the hell should I know? I’ll know when I get there.”
He jinxed me and laughed. “Wait until you get married and have kids. That’ll give you goals!” He said. Argh… it was prophetic. I’ve already done all the traveling and gaining passport stamps in my 20s. I found a steady girlfriend (ahem, someone I stayed with for more than 6 months) and eventually married her and have two wonderful daughters. It’s interesting to see my purpose change n life. I gotta learn how to shepherd my kids into adulthood, become a responsible adult (ha!), and be a good husband to my awesome wife!
My goals usually come up at night right before sleep when my wife and I engage in pillow talk after the kids have drifted into sleep. My goals are fluid and made in cooperation with my wife. She drags me along towards our destination when I start slacking. My kids keep me on the straight and narrow.
Goals will take me to places I never thought I’d arrive at.
As David Coverdale once sang …
I don’t know where I’m going
But I sure know where I’ve been
Hanging on the promises
In songs of yesterday
And I’ve made up my mind,
I ain’t wasting no more time
Here I go again
Here I go again
Though I keep searching for an answer,
I never seem to find what I’m looking for
Oh, Lord, I pray
You give me strength to carry on…
So I’ve sometimes found it hard to define my goals. My life experiences take me in an adventure that have led me to my current goals. Future choices and events will lead to even more goals. I can be patient and wait for goals to appear right before my very eyes.
Maybe it’s not so bad when you’re 18 years old and don’t know what you’re gonna do. You’ll find it eventually. Goals will come to you soon enough.